Currently trying to find option 1.5.
Option 1: Be a controlling mom.
This seems to make life in present easier but presents problems when your children actually need to live on their own. Since you’ve always micro-managed every minute detail of their childhood or done everything for them, they can’t actually function as adults.
Okay, so it’s obvious that I believe that to be a bad option…but I have to tell you that there are SO many times when it’s just easier to deal with things on my own – it’s faster, less messy and gets done in a way that I can handle. So sometimes I give up on teaching life lessons and skills and revert to crazy controlling mom.
Option 2: Give up control all together.
It’s plain as day to me that is is also a horrible option because it leads to a mom (dad?) and children that are totally out of control. R-E-S-P-E-C-T will be out the window. Plus at a young age they are rarely capable of making good choices (every single time). Parents are to be there to guide their children. Simple as that. But there are days when I don’t have what it takes. There are days I just want to give up..or give in.
Option 1.5: You walk that delicate line from control towards freedom.
And it’s supposed to happen in 18 years time. So for my sanity, I’m trying to get things under control in this household while helping my children take part of the control that they can reasonably handle. It’s a process – something I have to remind myself on a daily basis.
Continuing to dig my way out….
one messy closet at a time.